If you are into relationships that can lead to marriage
These days, the eldest tribe of the 90 generation has reached their early 30s, at which most of them are thinking about mature dating relationships that could lead to marriage instead of casual hookups, adult hookup, casual dating or some instant love. However, the fact is a great deal of this group have never gone through a relationship that can survive over a year or even six months.
We call these type of relationship as "fast-food relationship", "instant love" or hookup relationship, which refers to relationships that begins quickly and also ends within a blink. It cannot be any more ordinary for such circumstances where two persons meet at a coffee shop, a night club or some online dating hookup apps or sites. At the middle of the night, they end up in one bed, which indicates a start of an adult dating relationship.
Of course, we can't deny that there are examples that this kind of adult relationship can have a romantic result, such as the wedding chapel, but in most circumstances, this scenario only happens in the movie. In reality, such adult dating relationship often leads to nowhere but a waste of time and energy. If you are around your 30s and interested in settling down with a man or a girl, here are some relationship advice for you that might be helpful.
First, focus on the present and let go of the past. Believe it or not, if you have more than one relationship, whether mature dating, some casual hookup dating or quick flirt, your last relationship must have some impact on your current one. It's beyond control that you will compare your exes with your current partner. We heard a thousand times of relationship advice from different people telling us not to do so, but we just can't help it. Here is another emphasize. People change.
According to some official data, the renewal frequency of human cell is 120-200 days, except the nerve cell. Every 6-7 years, the whole human body will be replaced by new cells. That is to say, there is not a same cell in the body of a man after several years. On the flip side, you should also let go of your past. I have a friend being hurt badly by a man in her last relationship. It's been 3 years. She hasn't let that relationship go and still are afraid of adult dating and relationships. We must believe in love whatever we went through in the past.
Second, talk about future plans. By saying future plans, I didn't mean where are you going fro the summer holiday or how many kids you are going to have when get married. There are some crucial topics should be talked through before abording the ship. For example, whether your partner is expecting marriage at some point of his/her life.
If you long for marriage, it must not be a good idea to date a celibatarian, right? Or if you want 3 kids, you certainly don't want to argue this with your dink husband, right? Even though I mentioned the whole "people change" cliche above, this still isn't a good surprise for you both when you dive deeper into the mature dating relationship. It's always good to know and be prepared.
Third, be yourself. This is the bottom line of any type of relationships, dating, hooking up or even some casual fling. This is also the top relationship advice I'm going to offer today. This sounds to be another cliche, but it's necessary to stress it out, because there are always some girls who are just blindly in love and forget who they really are. "I always told myself to be chill before every relationship, but I just can't help it when I'm in love".
Are you one of them? I bet the answer is mostly yes. This is the truth. Let's face it. Sometimes, we just have to emphasize again and again until this concept is carved all over our mind.